Friday, May 8, 2015

Heart Sisters Book Review

I decided to start signed up for more book reviews again because we were supposed to be settled in the new house at this point but sadly, we are not and I have lots of new books to read with deadlines.  Heart Sisters: Be the Friend You Want to Have by Natalie Chambers Snapp was the first of these books to come in to read.  I finished all the books from the library and started reading this one for my review.

Heart Sisters is for women who want to both be and have better friends and want a helpful guide to take them through the process. Author Natalie Chambers Snapp uses her own and others’ stories of successes and failures to illustrate what she has learned about girlfriend relationships. Healthy boundaries, honesty, tact, sharing, and agape love all play a part in being and maintaining a circle of close confidants. She also deals with the inevitable challenges that face many relationships including how to handle conflict; life changes like a new baby, move or divorce; and when it is right to “break-up” with your friend. Discussion questions, space to journal, photos, and quick interviews of healthy female friendships are included within each chapter.

This book wasn't really something that interested me which I didn't know until I read the Letter to the Readers.  The blurb on the back did not give the content of the book justice.  I know that there are going to be lots of people out there that really like this book but it was much more based on the Bible than I was expecting. I do not think that talking about an issue and backing it up with quotes from the Bible actually helps make the point clearer.  There are many "self-help" books out there that state opinion and then follow up with statements from studies or other experts.  This book followed the same format but there was rarely any facts used and just quotes from the Bible.  The main idea was to help get more close friends and the only thing that she said was join a MOPs or Bible study group.  I don't think that either one of these things helps people find more close friends because it doesn't give any tips on how to actually make those friends other then to be outgoing.

In addition, there were a few comments that were down right insulting like you can have friends who don't believe in God or the Bible because they will encourage you to give up your marriage and not fight for it.  I don't go to church but I am a strong believer in my marriage and certainly plan to work through ever problem with my husband and never get divorced.  I am not sure how me not going to church has anything to do with that aspect of my life.  She also stated that men and women cannot be friends which I think is also totally crazy.  I had friends when I was working that were male because I worked in a male dominated job and my husband had female friends at different jobs.  Having a friend at work never made either of us cheat or do anything to compromise our marriage.  The author felt that having an emotional connection with someone of the opposite sex was as good as cheating.  I just can't disagree enough!!  Friends should be friends whether they are black, white, purple, or green as well as male or female.  I had a female friend who worked and her husband was a stay at home dad so I tried everything to invite him to different events that I thought he would enjoy with his son because I knew that he was struggling with being a stay at home dad.  It was hard for him because other groups wouldn't hang out with him because he was a man and I think that is a horrible way to show your Christian love by making someone not feel welcome.

I read the book cover to cover and I am sorry to say that I would not recommend this book.  I didn't enjoy any of it and got no information on how to be a better friend or make more friends.  I think that there might be some people out there that this book would be a good fit for but it wasn't me.  I wish that the blurb on the back cover was a little bit more in line with what was inside the book!!

**I was provided a copy of this book for my honest review and opinion.  All of the opinions here are my own.

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